Becoming Fearless: The Journey to Self-Healing by Maria Esposito from the Fulcrum

The Fulcrum, Issue 84 September 2021 click here for the full link to the fulcrum

When I first started working with a heart-centred connection, my practice was transformed. I found that working from the heart enabled me to connect with my higher self and strengthen my intuition. Clients commented on the treatment experience and the more I nurtured my heart connection, the more effective my work became.

Yet, developing heart connection was not easy or straightforward. There were times when the connection was open and grounded, spacious and flowing. Other times I resonated with painful emotions and experiences. Questioning why this could be so led me to recognise my own emotional pain and unconscious fears and accept my need to heal.

The self-healing journey takes many forms and different paths. Each one of us will need to find the best way to acknowledge, recognise and heal from our emotional pain and fear. Here, I will share my own journey, experiences and observations before recommending useful tools and techniques that may support self-healing.

A Healing Dynamic

From personal experience and from talking with others, I believe that quite often therapists attract clients who have experienced similar pain. It seems a case of ‘like attracts like’ and the resulting dynamic seeks resolution for both client and therapist.

Around ten years ago, clients began coming to me with symptoms and experiences rooted in childhood pain and trauma. I found that I often resonated with their emotional pain and, as I began to explore this, I realised that I carried similar experiences. My acknowledgement and awareness of this allowed space for my own early trauma and, as the memories returned, I accepted that I too needed healing.

Acknowledgement was the beginning of my own healing journey and as it unfolded I recognised and accepted the fear that had been part of my life since early childhood.

Freedom From Fear

During the past ten years of treating clients, including babies and parents, and myself, I have become aware that fear is one of the most prevalent emotions, often hiding behind others. Fear can stem from emotional or physical pain that we have suffered in the past. It can be unconscious, buried so deeply that it influences our thoughts, feelings and actions without us really being aware of it.

The more I healed the more my true self emerged

Feelings of anger, deep anxiety, depression and overwhelm, and behaviours like lashing out, withdrawing, addiction and self-harm, can all stem from fear. They can stem from childhood experiences, our early relationships, our upbringing, our education, our society, from the way we were taught to deal or not to deal with emotions, and be triggered by the things we watch, books that we read, from family, friends, colleagues or people we admire.

Expressions of fear are seen now more than ever. For the past year and half of the Covid-19 pandemic, global fear of the unknown and the stress of uncertainty has impacted many lives, including our own. Throughout, fear and worry about the mental and physical health of loved ones and friends, about jobs and finances, have been pervasive. In some, isolation from and/or loss of loved ones have left deep emotional trauma. In others, fear and worry converted into anger and frustration with devastating impact for partners and families. These experiences may impact not just the people directly affected but also future generations

The Question is How Do We Move Forward, Individually and Collectively?

I grew up with parents who were born at the time of the second world war and fear was a constant factor in their lives; fear of not getting enough food, fear of getting hurt, fear of not having enough money to support the family.

In myself, I believe that this legacy of fear manifested primarily as self-reliance. I became a ‘doer’, generally resilient and solutions oriented when dealing with my worries, and proactive about controlling my life and pursuing my interests in health and healing without dependence on others. However, as I shared in my previous article “Transformation’ (Issue 82), it wasn’t until I started my CST training that I realised how ungrounded I was, and how easily fears and worries unbalanced me.

So, part of my healing journey has been to free myself of inherited and acquired fears, unconscious and conscious. The more I healed the more my true self emerged – a more grounded and positive individual, searching for ways to deal with life and emotions. I supported this new self-awareness with personal craniosacral sessions, energy healing, and meditation, ultimately leading to a different level of being that has enabled me to move forward with a greater sense of energy, direction and focus.

Growth Through Healing

The experience of recognising and accepting my need of healing taught me that as therapists we are still vulnerable and need to deal with all that we carry and hold; without doing that, there is no growth or expansion as a person or as a therapist. When we think that others are in more need of healing than ourselves, and shut our hearts to our own pain, we deny our own healing.

This is not to say that we can’t help others until we have healed ourselves. Yet, with self-healing, I believe we become more effective therapists.

It is my belief that the very act of opening our hearts to serve and help another person creates a healing dynamic. When the therapist connects to their heart first, acknowledging their emotional pain and fear, self-doubt and insecurities, the treatment becomes a powerful healing tool for both them and their client.

HEALING STRATEGIES AND THERAPEUTIC SELF-HEALING TOOLS

The self-healing journey is different for everyone, but it shares the same starting point – an intention to heal yourself of conscious and unconscious emotional pain and fear, and then finding the best support for that process.

My own journey to self-healing taught me that a mix of therapeutic and practical tools are useful. Some of the techniques that have helped me include:

Treat yourself: I found craniosacral sessions and energy healing helped me connect with the resources I needed to heal. And, I found that even during the worst times of the pandemic, when I myself had Covid-19, CST and meditation were the best tools that I had to resource myself and let go of personal fears and worries. My suggestion for therapists is to have regular CST treatments. And, if you become aware of or triggered by a reflected pain and/or fear during a treatment, it is worth exploring that in supervision or with another therapy.

Meditation: Learning to meditate is almost an essential part of a therapist’s growth and development, helping to ground, be centred and present. Through meditation, I learned to connect to my true heart; by breathing into it with intention, I can access and feel the infinite love and peace that is there for us all at any time. In this space, the solution for resolving your fear might come up easily. Also, meditative breathing techniques down regulate the nervous system, calming the mind from worries and fears. If you find it difficult to meditate at stressful times, there are many apps that provide guided meditations and breathing techniques.

Cultivate self-awareness: A type of self-healing is to recognise your own emotions and thought patterns and how they shape the way you think and behave towards yourself and others. A talking therapy can help you understand yourself and equip you to deal with any painful or traumatic emotions and memories that may come up.

Feel the fear: About 20 years ago, I read a book by author Susan Jeffers called “Feel the fear and do it anyway”. While I no longer remember the specifics, the title has stuck with me, reminding me about the importance of intention and readiness in letting go of fear; about how empowering it is to acknowledge fear and choose to overcome it.

This is relevant in our present situation where many feel strong anxiety about returning to work or social environments, and a question that you could ask yourself is, ‘what would I rather do, live my life with a job that I love, or freeze and stop living for the next few years?’.

It might sound obvious but just asking it of ourselves – of our system – can help us see, understand and choose to overcome what is blocking us. Once we can see, feel and name our fears, we can apply our therapeutic tools to let go of them, freeing us to move forward.

NLP: As a neuro-linguistic practitioner, I offer some NLP techniques for certain CST clients who I feel may benefit from it. I often use a technique called “time-line technique”, where the client makes a guided journey to the first time they encountered a specific emotion, e.g. fear. Usually, it is a formative emotion that has been present from birth to six years old, and I ask the client to suggest different resources for dealing with the event that triggered the specific emotion. This technique can be profoundly empowering and the resources can be accessed at any time the original emotion returns. It has had a major impact on many of my clients, and can be done online or face to face when treating, or as a self-care technique once it has been learned.

© Maria Esposito BSc (Hons) R-Nutritional Therapist – NAET for allergies – R-Craniosacral Therapist – NLP – Angel Guide Certified – Mindfulness Meditation teacher- Resilient heart (heart-Math)

Children anxiety is real and can be helped with craniosacral therapy

I have seen many children lately, mainly with anxiety related disorders. This was due to lack of sleep, too much going on in their lives, and too many things to do, as well as long days at school and home.

I have seen this, especially near the time that children need to change from one school to another. Parents starts to panic and start stressing their children on where is the best school for them, this can be from primary to secondary and from secondary to A levels.

I also seen different background from strict religious background to atheist and more. The amount that is put on the child, either for necessity and or for learning lots of more things is massive.

This means they have so much more information that they need to have, and their sleep is restlessness and have little or none deep sleep.

This leads to the child starting the day tired and ending up being irritated, eating more sugars than they need to, to feed their stress pathway; jumping up and down for a while, than getting exhausted, bypassing their sleep time, and getting even more tired; till they start getting anxious, due to the cortisol being high all the time, and getting the adrenaline rush, which makes them want to fight, run, or freeze. They start having ticks and do things to relieve their stress mode, sometimes with no results. They start fighting with their siblings and their parents, start breathing from their chest, which will give less oxygen. End results, they will be exhausted by the end of the day, and cannot catch up with that exhaustion, till they get ill, quite often, which is the body stopping them from carrying on the way they are carrying on.

This cycle of stress, irritation, ticks, and exhaustion illness, will carry on for the entire months of school, till the summer, and it carries on at times into adulthood. Where they will start running, having a stressful job and keep being deprived of rest, sleep and mental stability.

Can you see the cycle here? So start looking at signs of restlessness into your child, or children behaviour and start thinking if your child is overwhelmed with activities and less rest time. How do they breath? Can they breathe well? Are they having ticks, or even frequent illnesses? Are they anxious or fearful of being left alone? Do they want your attention all the time? Do they talk all the time, without resting their mind? Or are they quite all the time, too much in their head already?

Craniosacral therapy, will help getting their system quieter, calmer and more settle in themselves, with less anxiety. I teach the heartmath breathing technique for parents to teach their children and do some breathing technique themselves, so that they can settle and be present with their children as well.

This will benefit the children as well as the parents, has it will allow presence, space and time to be quite and relax the body and mind, with a physiological, change, mental and spiritual calmness.

© Maria Esposito BSc (Hons) R-Nutritional Therapist – NAET for allergies – R-Craniosacral Therapist – NLP – Angel Guide Certified – Mindfulness Meditation teacher- Resilient heart (heartMath)

Importance of a baby crawling and connection with dyslexia

Science is great in proving things that there was a possible theoretical point to start with. Years ago, when I was studying for my Nutritional degree, I saw some research regarding the connection between crawling or mainly not crawling and hand and eye coordination, that would affect the child later in life and have a poor eye and hand coordination.

Looking at some studies now, they can now show that the crawling part is essential for writing and other brain activity that would be affected by the same part. I remember also reading the book, “The well balance child”, by Sally Goddard Blythe, where they mentioned that crawling would switch off one reflex in the body, so that another reflex would switch on, and facilitate the hand and eye coordination for later in life. The tummy time and other baby developments are essential for every stage of the baby to have a balanced life.

Now sometimes doctor will see this if it is quite severe, others times, they will ignore it as nothing serious. As a parent, I remember by reading the article and I made sure that my son would crawl first, and when I see babies and mothers in my clinic, I always suggest that they let the baby crawl first, even if the baby wants to walk and bypass the step.

Buying a tunnel tent, where parents and baby can craw, through might also help that development, if you see that the baby wants to walk instead of crawling.

I was talking to somebody recently and they mentioned that their daughter had dyslexia and so did they as they found out, and the doctor mentioned to them, that because they did not crawl, that was one of the reasons. Of course, if your child did not crawl, and they are old, you cannot do much about it, but I still remember that you can take them playing in the soft play area, if they are young enough, so that they can crawl through the games and that could still make a difference. If you are an adult, of course does not mean that you cannot live a normal life, it can be a bit more challenging at times, but I am also sure that the brain will find a way to deal with things in a different way and still function quite well.

If, however, you can still have the opportunity to change something in your baby life, than make sure that they can crawl.

Craniosacral therapy, can check any possible restriction of the spine, that might lead to the baby reflex not being switch on or off and help with any possible baby birth trauma, small or big.

© Maria Esposito BSc (Hons) R-Nutritional Therapist – NAET for allergies – R-Craniosacral Therapist – NLP – Angel Guide Certified – Mindfulness Meditation teacher- Resilient heart (heartMath)

Craniosacral – NLP and mindfulness changing how you see things to move forward – Connect to your higher brain!

After reading many books and articles about the brain and mind, I found that there is so much in common with the healing of the brain, and how much you can the brain do, if given the opportunity. While healing babies and children with craniosacral therapy, I realized that what I am doing, is given their brain an opportunity to heal the body and find another way of developing that works for them, hence healing themselves. The common things is also with adults, the difference with adults is that their own resistance, beliefs and upbringing, might stop them or delay the quick healing that the therapy would otherwise do. With the combination of NLP and Mindfulness the person is empowered to find another way of thinking and doing things that works for them, in order to heal, past and present trauma, or even blocks to their own being and being of themselves. The brain is an amazing healer, it can do miracles, if you allow it!

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Try now with craniosacral therapy, or the combination with NLP and mindfulness meditation and living that you will be given if needed, as well as starting by changing your diet, or allergies. With the method NAET the over-reaction to food and the environment might diminish or go completely, as the brain reset to recognise what it has perceived as the enemy as part of itself. click here to read more about all the therapies.

© Maria Esposito BSc (Hons) R-Nutritional Therapist – NAET for allergies – R-Craniosacral Therapist – NLP – Angel Guide Certified – Mindfulness Meditation teacher-

Where you come from might be surprising! looking at my ancestors.

Out of curiosity I decided to do my DNA Heritage test, to see where my ancestors are and where I came from. I was expected mainly Italian, and maybe Spanish, from my surprise I half Italian/Greek, which I did not expect at all. Even though Romans did go and invaded Greece at some point, so it make sense now. I did not realize how much of Greece there was. It could be that half Naples might be partly Greek! If all did the DNA test there might be a way of knowing it. Amazing, though, then 6 per cent is related pretty much to the ancestors Jewish community, there is a percentage of West Africa, Middle East and less than 1 per cent Nigeria, and my son mentioned that many people find that they come from Nigeria, that might be the Africa that moved more thousands of years ago. So just for people to know that you might be different from what you think you are!

This can affect also the way you eat and what you eat, if you are stuck with your health in understanding what you care allergic to or even what you can eat more, it is worth to do the ancestors test to see what you can eat that is good from where you are from!

© Maria Esposito BSc (Hons) R-Nutritional Therapist – NAET for allergies – R-Craniosacral Therapist – NLP – Angel Guide Certified – Mindfulness Meditation teacher-

Healing Yourself, Healing your Children, Healing the World

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For the past 11 years I have learned that healing ourselves, our inner child, our babies trauma, our children trauma, will eventually heal others. The most essential part of what we need to heal, are conditioned beliefs, stories from where we were children, physical/emotional and mental trauma that made an imprint into our body tissue, history of war, fights and conflicts from our external and internal world. There are lots of things that we can do to make our lives much lighter and easier, if we choose to. If you feel that you are stuck and not moving at all, or you know someone that is stuck and not moving at all, then it is time to suggest to choose to get better and heal, rather than stay in the mud for a long time, till you cannot breathe anymore. This is a conscious decision that you need to make in order to get better. Some of the things that you are carrying with you from childhood might not serve you anymore, or they might not be yours to keep! 

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START HEALING TODAY! The world will be a better place to live when you take the first step to going back to being yourself and who you really are!

Craniosacral therapy, NLP and Mindfulness meditation will also lead you to have a healthier lifestyle, with different choice of eating, doing more physical movements and relaxing more at the same time!

© Maria Esposito BSc (Hons) R-Nutritional Therapist – NAET for allergies – R-Craniosacral Therapist – NLP – Angel Guide Certified – Mindfulness Meditation teacher-

Emotion or physical trauma from before birth to adult time. What can you do to let it go?

I have been a therapist for 28 years and more. Starting to treat the physical trauma with massage and reflexology to the chemical trauma through nutrition and allergies and for the past 11 years trauma from birth or before birth to adult time with craniosacral therapy/healing.

It always amaze me when an adult can manage to let go from their body, their childhood trauma through their painful muscle or body.

If you are like me, that grew up long time ago, when children were not considered teachers, like they are now, then you still have some trauma, from family beliefs, religion and society.

This is not about blaming any of your parents or other people that raise you, as they did the best they could with the resources that they had, and some had none, or had a really tough time too.

All stems from that unconditional love that was given to your parents and your parents to you.

Emotional trauma and physical trauma are connected to each other, one might cause the other and vice-versa.

If you birth was traumatic for you and your mum, than the physical scar stay there, unless you deal with them from the start.

If you are an adult you can still deal with the trauma, through craniosacral therapy. If you have had a baby, than this is the best time to treat them and have a more positive life paved for them.

Step-by-step back to yourself!

If you have toddlers and older children, there is plenty of time to still treat them. Craniosacral therapy is one of the best treatment from babies to adults, as it is gentle but very powerful.

Depending on the trauma, for babies might needs up to 3 treatments only. For adults it might take some more time, but worth your money and time to heal yourself, as you will see your life, changing positively, treatment by treatment.

© Maria Esposito BSc (Hons) R-Nutritional Therapist – NAET for allergies – R-Craniosacral Therapist – NLP – Angel Guide Certified – Mindfulness Meditation teacher-

Beetroot nutritional facts and benefits

Did you know that beetroots or beet (beta vulgaris) are in the same family of chard and spinach?

Roots and leaves can be eaten, even though most people do not eat the leaves much and concentrate on their roots only. This root was first cultivated and spread around by ancient Romans.

Did you know that beetroot can also be converted into sugar? Napoleon started to convert it into sugar at his time and today many Countries still converts it into sugar.

The beet green part is rich of calcium, iron, vitamin A, C and high in folic acid, so if you are planning to get pregnant or even if you are not, eat the green of the beet to get the folic acid. They are a good source of fiber, manganese and potassium. The roots are a good source of phosphorus, iron, and vitamin B6. The cooked beet root is higher in sugar, about 100 gr of beet cooked contain about 8 g of sugar. So, if you have diabetes or blood sugar level problems, watch that you do not eat a lot of beet roots.

Beetroots are high in betacyanin, which gives his purple red colour. This nutrient is a powerful cancer fighting agent.

As it is high in fiber, is good to lower cholesterol.

Studies in animal have shown that beetroots can increase the natural antioxidant in our body such as glutathione-S-transferase.

When choosing your beetroot, make sure that it is firm and looks fairly fresh.

Enjoy them by grating them with carrots in a salad, you can do some time of smoothie with water and drink it.

You can also do what my mum used to do when I was a child and I had a constant cough. As at that time there was no NHS, my mum used all the natural remedies from food and herbs to get us children well. No penicillin was used till we were about 14 of age.

I constantly had a cough, which I now know was a combination of being low in iron and energetically I could not express myself well, as at that time, like everywhere in the world, the children were to be seen but not heard!

My mum used beetroot, cut them in half, added some actual cane sugar in it, so it would be sweet, and put it outside the window at night. In the morning, there would be this natural syrup that she would give me. And that usually would calm down my cough for a while. That was due to all the goodness that beetroot had in it.

So grateful that we have changed that belief! At least in the modern society!

However you would like to use the beetroot, enjoy it!

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© Maria Esposito BSc (Hons) R- Nutritional Therapist – NAET – R-Craniosacral Therapist – NLP practitioner – Certified Angel Guide

What are you thankful for this year 2020?

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After 10 years of being blessed with the awareness of what is out there, spiritually and physically and more, I know that the more thankful you are of what you have, the more your frequency raise up and set you on a very positive path. I know also that to raise your frequency, if appropriate for you at this time, you can have a really good laugh, either with a friend, family or children if you have any, or remember a time where you were the happier and connect to that time. You can also click on this link to do the circle of excellence, to re-connect to a time that you were most happy, with joy and peace, so that your frequency goes up.

We are still respecting and send blessing to the people who have passed on this year and the ones that have suffered as a consequence of the virus. If we are all down and depressed, then we might get stuck in this for a long time, if we can, let’s be thankful for what we have in our lives, and what the positive part of this year has brought forward:

I am thankful that I have food on my plate;

I am thankful for myself and my family to be well right now;

I am thankful that even though this has been considered a World war III, our young men have been asked to stay at home, and not killing each other on a field;

I am thankful that I am aware that there is more help, out there from the Universe (God, Source, Lights and more), that most people will ever know;

I am thankful for leaving in London, where we can still connect to nature and be outdoor, as there are so many parks and reservoir open;

Thank you and Happy Thanks Giving, even if you are not celebrating it, or bother about it, this year is good to be thankful.

Link to circle of excellence video so that you can add joy, happiness and more in your life, if appropriate. Click here to see it and raise your frequency!

Maria Esposito BSc (Hons) R-Nutritional Therapist – NAET – R-Craniosacral Therapist – NLP practitioner – Certified Angel Guide

We are still open for face to face

We are still open for face to face.

My awareness for the past 10 years:

  • As humans we are a combination of our soul/higher self and the physical body, where we can experience life, with the ups and down, with the full range of emotions, from anger to joy and happiness, the freedom of choice, the consequences of our own choices, whatever they may be. Emotional inappropriate FEAR is one of our biggest enemy. Something that we still carry from our ancestors and is in our DNA.
  • The full integration of the soul, with the massive universal knowledge and the conscious intelligence of our human body and brain right now, in this age and time.
  • It is the combination of both the soul and the human body, that makes us special, integrated and working for the highest good of ourselves and others. It is not just the human right, or the soul right, we do not work for one or the other, we work together as “ONE”, when we do that, than we can connect with our hearts and the hearts of our fellow human and souls, without dragging each other down or be taking advantage of one power over another. We will be connected with the infinite source and hence our life on earth will be on a level that has never been before. With our inner peace and our inner knowledge.
  • With this year, like any other years in the past, there will be an imprint of good or bad, what ever it was that you choose to do this year.
  • My awareness is that the imprint, will be passed on for some people and society, from the DNA to the next generation, where they need to deal with that and clear it.
  • We are still carrying the imprint of our grand-parents and parents from the past world wars, and this year from the universal help, they are coming down to help and ask for help to be cleared before their next life.
  • Our soul, for some will have an imprint of the good things that we have learned as human in this life, so that the next one, will be on a higher note and frequency of knowledge and awareness.
  • It will take at least few more generations to deal with the old past, and few more new presidents and prime ministers, and leaders to make the earth a better place to live and be proud of living on it. There are energy and Lights coming from all over the Universe to help us, from alternate reality world and high up, as Masters like Jesus, Mother Mary, Buddha, and all the other beautiful Golden, Silver, rainbow Lights helping, including the Wild Life animal energy, the Fairies, and many more that I am not aware of.
  • They are all helping, which is an amazing and wonderful concept to know. Humans choices will be different now, as we enter a world of justice, integrity and fairness, with an abundance of Love from the infinite source of Beings. November 6th 2020

Being grounded, integrated and anchored to the 5th dimension, will bring your to where we are all going. Dealing with the negative emotions and filling our mind with the positive ones are a way for us humans to get integrated and working together with our soul.

For the once that are ready, and the ones that are not, try to see how it feels to be grounded and to clear the toxic energy of what is going on right now.

Click here to read more on grounding and book your place for the webinars.

© Maria Esposito BSc (Hons) R-Nutritional Therapists – NAET – R-Craniosacral therapist – NLP practitioner – Certified Angel Guide -connection between heaven and earth