Baby cuddling time

The importance of keeping your baby close to you and the response to their cry.

Holding a baby for the first few months close to you when the baby when cry is an important step for his/her future emotional well -being.

The following is the research done by Dr Zeedyk from the work of by Dr John Bowlby (few opinions and facts written in the Fulcrum and answered by Dr Suzanne Zeedyk . Dr John Bowlby theorised at his time that the earliest bonds formed by children to their caregivers (usually parents) have a huge impact on their lives. His theory was out in the 1960s and according to Dr Zeedyk has been confirmed by numerous neuroscientific  findings.

As a primitive mammals, our babies relied on adults up to survive for the first 2 years. So the adults at that time and in some culture now as well, have their babies tied to themselves at all time. The babies feels  secure and safe.

They feel the heartbeat of the adults and they feel  very content and secure for the future. According to Dr Zeedyk the baby internalizes patters responses of his/her caregivers or parents. The first two years of the babies experience with emotions will shape his/her future and the way she/he will react to connection and disconnection from loved ones.

These first times of the baby emotional cry will be an early life lessons that will stick to the synaptic pathway of the brain and into physiological response of the body. Dr Zeedyk explains in the Fulcrum that in order to have a well-functioning emotional life, we need to be able to manage connecting and disconnecting from people we love. Starting from babies response to their cry to when they become adults.

In a nutshell hugging babies when they cry or the children when they are upset is the best gift of life, that the parents can give to the baby, as it will set them on a positive path emotionally. As adults sometime we need our own help in that. Cranio-sacral therapy will help mother and baby to create that connection and disconnection by working on the mother babies together or separately and working on the trauma from birth of the mother and baby; balancing the baby and mother system and creating a happier family.

It might take more than one session for a traumatic birth or to resolve trauma in the mother if there are any from her past or father as well.

Slings and baby carriers at Born shop N16 – Church street. The staff are very friendly and ready to help you with try the carriers before buying with very really baby dolls!

References:

S.G.Blythe (2004). The well balanced child. Hawthorn Press. Uk

Dr Suzanne Zeedyk (2015). Attachment, shadows from infancy. The Fulcrum (2015). Issue 64. Pg- 18-22.