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Dealing with Phobias with Neuro-linguistic programming and craniosacral therapy

Fear seems to be one of our innate system that can either save us from danger or in our modern lives, keep us frozen in time. When a certain event that caused a strong fear, from childhood to adults, and that fear is reinforced day by day, then anxiety and phobias starts to arise. How we deal with our fears, it depends on our inner resources. Some people or children, might develop a phobia or anxiety attack in certain situation and others will be absolutely fine. This all depends on the unconscious and the memory that we retain. Quite often the negative fear memory or the event can be distorted and exaggerated by the mind. It depends on the internal support that that child or adult has and the external support. The negative fear loop can be changed in an adult by seeing the events in a different way and in a safe space. For children is reinforcing the safety of the event or possible danger with advice, e.g., if a child is scared of the dark, reassuring that child that is ok and he is safe even in the dark will help them waking up in the middle of the night terrorized if the light is off. This is a small example. In adults’ phobias can be stemming from a single event and reinforced every time that something triggered that memory. With NLP and CST, we work together in changing that memory so that the person feels ok.

For example, one of my clients was terrorized of snake, even if he saw them on a newspaper. We worked with Craniosacral therapy and NLP to reduce that fear, so that he could travel, with cautious but not terrorized of moving or travelling, where possibly snakes would be around. Obviously, he would be careful of not stepping into one, but he could see a film and read magazines, where snakes were presents, without triggering his fight and flight stress response or even a panic attack.

Where and how fear is sensed, which then could become a phobia:

  • Ears – a certain sound can trigger the fear from an event, e.g., if you grew up in a war zone and then moved away, fireworks or a car backfiring would trigger that stress/fear response.
  • Eyes – Seeing anything that would remind you of a certain event would trigger the stress/fear response (mainly the amygdala, a gland in our brain that senses fear and then send the signal to another gland (hypothalamus) for the stress response to be activated.
  • Touch – The sensation of touching something that reminds you of the fear, will lead again to that stress response.
  • Memory/unconscious or conscious: Just thinking of a particular event or similar would lead to the stress response.
  • Sensing/taste/smell: All this sensation will trigger the stress response to the event or similar situation that caused exaggerated fear.
  • Knowing/feel of energy around us: For the most sensitive people, that sense of knowing that something is dangerous will lead to that stress response.

The right amygdala seems to be more connected and activated with fear conditioning, while the left is more connected with the non-conditioning fears. The conditioning fears are the ones that were strengthen by society or growing up and the environmental circumstances, while the non-conditioning one could be related to one event or thought. Phobias are persistent fears of situations, activities, or even avoidance of people or gender. People with this type of fear, will work very hard to avoid it at all cost. In my life I have encountered people who were terrorized of feathers. This type of fear, could lead the person to stay indoors more often as feathers are very difficult to avoid from the birds and pigeons. There are children that are terrorized of dogs, even though they have never had a traumatic event. This could easily be reinforced by the responsible adults who might have had a bad experience with dogs themselves, or other religious reasons. Another example of phobias is taken a lift, or going through a tunnel. This again can be life restricting experience if not dealt with.

Fear conditioning has been studied in numerous species, from snails to humans.

  • In humans, conditioned fear is often measured with verbal report and galvanic skin response (the hair raises up in fear).
  • In other animals, conditioned fear is often measured with freezing (a period of watchful immobility) or fear potentiated startle (the augmentation of the startle reflex by a fearful stimulus).
  • Changes in heart rate breathing and muscle responses, and eventually panic attack, which will lead to phobias.

A number of theorists have argued that conditioned fear coincides substantially with the mechanisms, both functional and neural, of clinical anxiety disorders.

There is a direct relationship between the activation of the amygdala and the level of anxiety the subject feels. Fear responses can include freeze, startles and increase in heart rate and sweating.

People with exaggerated fears or phobias, quite often trigger a stress response, even by anticipating the possible event or conditioned that they are scared about. A person can be into a panic by just thinking that they will go through a tunnel the next day. Another possible scenario is meeting a manager at work that has caused constant stress, hence, the person might physically be ill all the time, when they need to meet the manager one to one or in a group session.

The solution, which is easy and long lasting, that I found works for many people with fears/phobia is Neuro-linguistic programming and craniosacral therapy together.

This might take one or more session to reboot the brain to settle in a more relaxed and balanced way. It depends on the history of the person on how long it will take to get to a balance state of mind.

The phobia might go on the first session, but the way a person deals with any emotional threat might take a bit more.

Book your first consultation by emailing Maria Esposito BSc (Hons) at esposito_m@yahoo.co.uk or calling her on 07956662954

© Maria Esposito BSc (Hons) R-Nutritional Therapist – NAET practitioner – R-Craniosacral therapist – Neuro-linguistic programming practitioner – Certified Angel Guide

Free recorded webinars for Craniosacral Therapists – CPD

Taken from NLP tool kit, useful for everybody and easy to teach your clients
·                   1st Video link: Grounding tips for CST 
·                    2nd video link: circle of excellence  
·                   3rd video link: Midline energy centers (chakras) for csts 

Dealing with inappropriate negative emotions – with timeline technique.

This will be to preview and use as for yourself and for a gift this time of technique on your client as well. This deals with negative emotions that are stuck and grown from your childhood or your client childhood. This is a unique technique that gives the person freedom to move forward and let go of the heavy weight of carry that old emotion. For any human being carrying an old emotion from childhood can be like carrying a big cart full of stones. It might stop them from moving forward or being themselves. If you want the chance to learn this technique, for now it is free and is a gift for yourself as a therapist.

Timeline technique for craniosacral therapists

– demonstration for time line technique click here

Webinar Videos

1st video sound might be low. 16.5.20 – click here– anger first

2nd video on 16.5.20  dealing with sadness click here

 3rd Video 23.5.20 – dealing with sadness emotion click here

Clinical experience of Irritable Bowel syndrome”, self-help book click here to buy it on amazon By Maria Esposito BSc (Hons)

For craniosacral therapists only, you can buy the video and notes worth 2 hours CPD on IBS for £ 11.00. Contact me if you are interested. Payments via bank transfer or PayPal

Ibs webinar

Link to earthing mat for grounding click here 

Earthing mat

Last message to  Ariami Marpisa and Rose from the Healing rainbow Lights

Part of the recorded session 25.3.20 during the pandemic
The sessions started with going through what is going on in the world right now and talking about what Rose was going through, at the same time assessing that we went through this state of fear and uncertainty before, hence having the tools to get through for later on. While doing that, I could see her entire body shining and being in the Light, I never saw her in that way and it was amazing to see, her entire aura was White Light.

When Rose started to channel here is what she said she saw before a Light channelled through:
“A lot of White Light, pink, yellow and it is going to be ok. Wow these Lights are so bright”. I was asking Rose to talk loudly and I asked if she was ok as that channelling was unexpected, even though I was prepared for that.
Rose continued “Lots of heat, there is an animal, it is a wolf, it is protected, it is to do with the whole situation in the world right now, they are helping to protect people. There are also Lightning and Thunder, they are helping as well. This are messages for us all. They are helping. Everything is going to be ok, we are going to go through, different episodes with different Lights. At the end there is a White Light with a lot of smoke around me.Don’t forget that there is also the pinkest colour that I have ever seen (pink colour is the colour of the heart and love which it is all around the world right now, to help as many people as possible. The back of my third book also was made in January 2020 with the Phoenix being dark pink)”.

You can now read the rest of this message only on the 3rd book “Beyond Science III, the Lights I talked to” By Ariami Marpisa,  click here to buy the kindle or paper version;

Beyond Science III, the Lights I talked to

Ariami Marpisa website where I posted a blog in January after a dream that I had, very very essential for this time that we are going through.

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Beyond Science II, Healing ourselves, healing our children, healing our world

“Beyond Science II, healing ourselves, healing our children, healing our world”. Book available either from the publisher Austin Macauley directly by clicking here or  Amazon.co.uk by clicking here 

Beyond Science I, 2nd ed

“Beyond Science I, and the journey begins” 2nd edition kindle and paper  version click here 

My other spiritual book: “Where the Heart is” on amazon only click here to see and buy.

Where the heart is


Healing from the physical body through the soul! Grounding and integrated is the path to be yourself! It is through dealing with our emotions that our integration happens. Hope, trust and awareness of who we are as humans in connection to our soul knowledge and awareness that makes us grow and expand!

© Maria Esposito BSc (Hons) R-Nutritional Therapist – NAET – R-Craniosacral Therapist – NLP Practitioner – Certified Angel Guide